Better Sleep When You Are Alone

It’s 2 AM and you’re still awake. You toss and turn, trying to get comfortable, but it’s no use. Sleep just won’t come.

And you know why. Because your significant other isn’t home.


If you’re like most people, you probably have a hard time sleeping when your partner is away on business trips or deployed overseas. But there are some things you can do to help yourself get better sleep in his (or her) absence.

Here are a few tips:

1) Make sure the bedroom is dark and quiet.

If there’s light or noise coming in from outside it can be really challenging to fall asleep.

Try using blackout curtains or an eye mask to make the room as dark as possible.

When it comes to noise it’s a bit more tricky. Obviously, earplugs can help block out noise so if you’re the type that can sleep with some in your ears then go for it!

But to be honest, I’m the type of person that has to take all of their jewelry off before bed so earplugs are definitely not for me.

If I’m staying at a hotel, or my neighbors are having a barbecue, I like to use a sound machine to drown out the other noise.

It’s not exactly quiet, but hey, I’d much rather listen to rain forest sounds than whatever is going on next door.

2) Use the power of smell to your advantage.

Our memories are triggered by our sense of smell more intensely than by any other of the five senses we have. This is something called odor-linked memories.

When you smell something, in order to process the smell, your brain uses the same areas that it would use to process your emotions and memories. This makes smells great at helping us remember emotional memories!

When these memories are positive, our physical well-being as well as emotional and mental states improve.

Now that you know this important fact about how our sense of smell affects our emotions, you can use it to your advantage!

Choose a particular essential oil blend for your diffuser and for a while, only use is when you’re cuddling, relaxing, or getting intimate with your significant other.

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The Aura waterless diffuser has a warm glow that is perfect for setting the mood

Once you’ve trained your mind to associate that smell with a pleasant experience shared with someone you love, you’ll be able to trigger those memories again and feel just a little bit closer to that special someone even if they might not be there at the time.

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3) Try some tasty herbal infusions.

Herbal infusions are made by steeping herbs in hot water, and they have a long history of being used for medicinal purposes. So basically… tea, just without the actual tea leaves.

Some of the most popular herbs for sleep include chamomile, lavender, and passionflower. (We actually wrote a great journal entry about the benefits of chamomile tea!) These herbs have calming properties that can help to ease anxiety and promote relaxation.

In addition, herbal infusions are caffeine-free, so they won’t keep you awake at night. To get the most out of your infusion, drink it about an hour before bedtime. Sweeten with honey if desired, and enjoy a peaceful night’s sleep!

PS. if you’re looking for a beautiful tea cup that has it’s own infuser for loose leaf tea, take a peek at our Japandi Mug Set

4) Set aside worries about the future for another time.

One of the main reasons people have trouble sleeping is because they worry about things that might happen tomorrow or the next day.

If you find yourself flipping through potential scenarios in your head, try writing them down on a piece of paper and just forget about them until morning. Knowing they’re written down stops me from worrying about forgetting something (and every little bit counts, right??).

But better yet, set aside some time earlier in the evening to brainstorm solutions to whatever is worrying you so you can fall asleep with a clear mind knowing that you’ve got a plan in place. I know that sounds easier than it is in real life, with so many things to do every night but this is where that routine we mentioned really shines!

5) Set-up a bedtime routine and stick to it.

After a long day of work, childcare, and household chores, it can be tough to wind down. Your brain is all wired and just waiting for the next disaster!

But a good bedtime routine can make all the difference.

A relaxing bath or shower is a great way to start the process of getting ready for bed. Take some time to pamper yourself with a nice scented lotion or oil, and take a few deep breaths to clear your mind.

Once you’re in bed, take a few moments to read or listen to calming music.

With a little trial and error, you can end up creating a bedtime routine that will help you get the rest you need to be your best self.

Also, it’s a good idea to disconnect yourself from electronics screens at least 30 minutes before sleep.

Putting it all to bed

I know, it’s impossible to substitute an empty bed when your partner is away on business or deployed overseas.

Chamomile tea, a good sound machine and a well thought out bedtime routine you can stick to will help you get the restful slumber you need to feel refreshed and rejuvenated for the days ahead – even if your special someone isn’t there to cuddle with you at night.

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